(this is NYC, people here are bloody forward).
I noticed that on my one time in NYC. I called it “aggressive friendliness.”
I’m surprised you never got asked when younger. I love smart women (though they do scare me quite a bit). And you’re not bad looking either.
BTW, my mother of 7 children, remarried at 60 to the most eligible widower in town. He gave her 10, well deserved good years before he died of a stroke mowing the grass.